Friday, June 10, 2011
Wednesday, June 1, 2011
Moments of Panic
I've started to catalogue my days traveling in different ways (moments of laughter, sounds, smells, new people I meet) and I'd like to add one to the list: Moment of possible freak out. Because there have been a few. Really? Oh yes. Well, mind you, traveling is scary and you are faced with your worst fears all the time. They come directly to the surface and tap you on the shoulder constantly: getting lost, no one understanding you, not being able to get home quickly. The list goes on and on.
These freak outs are usually things you never ever share with another human soul because of the absolute ridiculousness that lies within, or you proclaim your misfortune to others so they may learn from your example and laugh at you. Or with you as the case may be here:
1.) At Lucy's wedding I was standing in the back against the bar and listening to the speeches. As my mind drifted off to some past and present whats and hows of my own life, a man ran up to me and hitting the back of my head said (in a British accent of course): "Lady, lady - your head is on fire." And thus it was. My hair was put up but had somehow, unbeknown to me, started to un-bobbypin itself and make it's way to a candle on the bar and did go up in flames. Now, ironically, I didn't panic. At this point, not much surprises me and it all happened so quickly. I was more embarrassed than anything really. And so I moved on quickly to giving my speech and ignoring the fact that it may have looked like I had a snarly little dog hanging from the back of my head.
As the night progressed, I met many nice people and had many nice conversations, which at some point were usually interrupted by the other person saying: "Do you smell that? It smells like something is burning again."
To which, I would respond every so calmly: "No, I don't smell a thing." And continued to ask them questions, taking a step back and standing with my head tilted away from the general direction of their nose.
Now yes, I was of course a little worried about my hair. It's long. I like it that way. I call it my California. But do watch what you ask for: while it was driving me nuts all morning, I joked that I just wanted to cut it all off. And in fact, I got a little of what I asked for. The next morning at 6am, with 3 hours of sleep, I woke up to the hideous smell and reminder of the candle/bar incident. It's one of the worse smells and FYI for future reference of your own - I brushed it out, I washed it - this smell, it does not go away.
So, I did what naturally any human would do: I freaked out a little (insert melodramatic gestures, moans, and cries - and for fun, a British accent)... "My hair! My long hair! Oh good God! Why me? Maybe I'll have to get a short haircut and go back to the days as a freshman at Rochester looking like an immigrant boy! My life is ruined! Maybe people sitting next to me in my travels would have to move disgusted of the smell and I'll make no friends! Maybe they will smell it when I go through airport security. Of course, of course they will. And they will question me, and I won't be able to get though. Who would believe my story? Maybe they'll get the dogs!"
So drowsily, with no one to listen or encourage my personal rampage, I calmed down and before dragging my bags down the stairs to the train, I drowsily went to the bathroom and quickly, cut off about an inch or so from the bottom of my hair - smelling the ends as I went to ensure total removal.
Three days later, having passed through airport security and making friends on the plane (no dogs having sniffed me), I think the smell is mostly gone. And I like my new cut. And I will never stand with my back to a bar that has candles. Or just in case, I never wear hairspray. And if all fails and this happens again, please next time let the old second grade lesson of "stop, drop, and roll" be the first thing that comes into my head.
Thank you to the man with the purple glasses who ran to my head and to the young bar staff who, for the most part, kept a good, laughing secret all night. We all now have a new story to tell....
Rome in a Day...
My friend Sally told me that she used to find that if she got overwhelmed in a new city, to just go into a church. Good advice. Especially in Rome. It's got a lot of churches and it's easy to get overwhelmed so it's perfect. Around every corner there is a magnificent church. And although there are tons of people (businessmen, tourists and nuns alike), no one talks or answers a phone. A sacred space. You can sit down and no one will bother you. In Rome, do bring a scarf as to cover your bare arms. It's a bit of a rule, I found out. If you don' t have one, they had out these white tissue paper like things to use and you can go on your way. And stay for as long as you like.
Saturday, May 28, 2011
On Permanence
I think heaven is here on earth.
And it’s good that we have endings.
That nothing is forever.
That way, we enjoy it all for what it is while it is here.
Wednesday, May 25, 2011
A Tired Girl in Norwich
Eyes floating like goldfish
Saying I don't know what
Blinking for air
Thinking aside.
Time goes like watercolor waves
Suspended like prayerflags
For a bed of my own.
Love happens just as life does
In spurts and sparks
And moves and moves
Constantly shifting
Redefining.
Eggshells cracking
Letting go of the reigns
She winks
Disassociates
Turns off the light
And readies for slumber.
The ticker of her mind
Goes through it's usual motions
Check-lists
Would haves
Should dones
Better ifs
Gears and cranks and locks and keys
Anything to rid her of the present chatter.
Wishes and wants
Travels and round the bends
Insects and darkness
Patterns on the ceiling
Shadows on the wall.
Oh how the innerworkings
Finally give way
And the earth spins round
Ever so gently
Tucking her in.
Tuesday, May 24, 2011
A Houseboat Called "Water Buffalo"
I awake hazy, still jet-lagged to a kitchen where the woman doing dishes wears a t-shirt that reminds me she was also “Born in Buffalo.” I eat breakfast with my Aunt Doreen. Drink tea and catch up. Talk anew and reminisce.
I visited Doreen here in London many years ago and although young, I remember riding along the Thames and realizing that I was meeting my Aunt for the first time. In the place that she had chosen to live and be and work and love. Walking on her streets. Having her show me about. Free, excited, light.
She is a teacher. Aunt Doreen is. She has lived in London for twenty years working with deaf children and their families. Now, mind you, this is nearly just as long a time as she spent growing up in Buffalo. In fact, Doreen’s hard Western New York “a’s” have evolved into often upward inflecting sounds that include words like rubbish and loo as if she had always been British herself.
And she, my Aunt Doreen, without knowing it or trying to prove any kind of point, reminds me again today: About where we are from. About how to go home. To visit family. To stay connected. To make that journey and continue to love this place and that one. The people. The snow. And that these things stay with you. Not to weigh you down or run away from, but rather to springboard to wander the world and welcome you back.
She walks with Buffalo throughout the streets on London, her also home, everyday and today welcoming me home... smiling, and sharing the sites of this part of the world with me once again.
Sunday, May 22, 2011
Day Three: Onto the Outskirts of Nowhere (London)
Kayakers practicing at the new 2012 Olympic site:
Lee Valley White Water Center.
People are already practicing and watching.
The bells on our bicycles as we needed to pass people by along the canal path
during our 20 miles bike ride!
It smelled like Catholic mass.
The handle on the gate of Cheshunt Lock.
They push these open to let the houseboats through.
I don't know that it helped my jet lag or not.
New Words:
"Trumble along to the calf" - Uncle Albert
...or "Get off your laptop and let's get there already."
Lindy, a tango dancer, from South Africa.
Between us and my Uncle Albert four continents were represented through dinner.
And on my way...
Saturday, May 21, 2011
Some Guidelines for Exploring the World
Friday, May 20, 2011
Day Two: Tottenham Hale, London
Within Ear shot: Coot (bird) asking me not to come near his newborns
Nose Sniffing: The perfume from a big tree with bright yellow leaves
Hand Grazed: Green paint chipping off bridge overlooking a canal lock
And Still Savoring: Rosemary and thyme brined chicken Aunt Doreen made for dinner.
Fear
A funny thing
Eh
That
Taking us unknowingly by the hand
Leading us somewhere we didn’t
Nope
We didn’t quite want to
Want to go
Or perhaps
Maybe
Making us sit down
Down
Down
When we had meant to stand up
Up
Up
Convincing us outright
To run away
Far far away
From the one we love
So sorry
Or battle a country we had thought as friend
Too bad
We can
Yep
Unwrap it like a candy
This fear
Give it a taste and go on our way
Yum
Yum
Or turn it into a ball of
Of
Of
Twisted rubberbands
Overlapping
Colorful
Beautiful even
Oh the stories we can tell ourselves
Tangling us with tension all the live long day
Long
Long
I’m afraid you will leave me
Also scared that I’ll get sick
Then what
Whispering
I wish I wasn’t alone
Or that the garbage truck didn’t come
Or that detour
That president
That
This
That
But no matter what or where or how
Yes
Yes
Yes
We can calendar
And tailor
And tuck in
And be on time
We say yes
And I do
And go team
And then go
And then go
But when do we sit
Looking straight into the
Vast or the little of the I don’t know
Before
Aw man
And oh shit
And wait what
Panic ensues
And we fall in love with the freak out
Out
Out
The pattern
And how could she
And why would he
And then what
What
What
What if
Or if
Or if
Okay calm down
Turn on the music
Have a glass of wine
And welcome this thing in
This fear
Good evening gorgeous
Greet it at the door with open eyes
Joke and give it a wink
And converse
Freely
About the tricks of the trade
And at the end of the night
You know
I know you
So
What do we have to lose
So
And so and so.
Thank you to all of the folks who listened to me go on and on the day before leaving and got me on that plane.